Why some anxiety sufferers never recover
If you suffer from anxiety (including the self-doubt, procrastination, self-esteem, and confidence issues that often accompany it), would you like to know how to recover?
If you genuinely want to end anxiety, once and for all, and be free to live your life the way you want, then read on.
Let me tell you what often goes on in the head of a sufferer…
Our brain is designed to keep us safe, conserve energy, and it loves familiarity.
Imagine you are presented with an opportunity, be it for work, social or business.
The brain darts back to the past and has a quick scan:
— Have we done anything like this before?
Let’s say it comes back to the present with the following answer:
— Yes, we have, and it didn’t work out that well; I was disappointed, hurt, uncomfortable, etc.
These same feelings will then be projected into your future. So you quickly come back into the present, your old familiar “cave”, where it’s a bit cramped and limited, but at least you know it. Hence, you stay exactly where you are, in your comfort zone: no stretch, no momentum, and no change. After all, you can just “manage” it, like you always have.
Equally, with the same scenario, the brain can quickly assess:
— No, we haven’t done anything like that before.
The brain is now thinking it’s unfamiliar, therefore not safe. When it projects it out to the future, it’s scary as hell. So, again, back to the “cave”.
That’s all anxiety is, a misfiring of neurons that has become habitual.
To recover from anxiety, we have to first teach the brain to make the familiar, unfamiliar, and the unfamiliar, familiar. Teach it to know there is no danger, the “what ifs” are just thoughts, and any physical symptoms are just an extension of the worry; because the body is part of the subconscious mind.
We can then teach it new ways of thinking, feeling and behaving. Luckily, the brain is neuroplastic, so it can be rewired in various ways.
The rewiring techniques are simple, but they do require three elements:
- Desire to want your freedom.
Therein lies the problem; most sufferers just put up with it.
— It’s just how I am.
— I’ve tried everything.
Quite often, because the brain likes to conserve energy, we become lazy, we accept a lower standard of how we could be. This applies to many areas in life.
— It’s too much trouble.
Stop for a moment, really think about this. You are deciding to limit your quality of life because of the fear of getting out of that comfortable cave.
Can you imagine any successful person having this attitude? Don’t you deserve a rich, fulfilling and happy life?
As soon as you are taught to change the brain, and feel more confident and more in control, you are on the road out of anxiety. Imagine what else you could achieve with this new attitude?
Anxiety Solutions for you
TW Magazines have published this article I wrote for their February editions where I provide effective techniques to prevent anxiety.
Denise Bosque has been chatting to Radio Jackie’s Luke Williams about anxiety during lock down, providing some tips to reduce stress.
Watch the short interview of a 17-year-old explaining his journey through anxiety recovery, as well as his father’s account.
Use this complimentary guided-meditation to focus on yourself, regain a sense of balance, and replace stress & anxiety, with peace & calm, in just 15 minutes.
I am delighted to be of service to you in any way I can. This page is mainly about Anxiety, my area of expertise and I want you to know that YOU CAN ABSOLUTELY RECOVER FROM ANXIETY, no matter what form it takes. My 19 years of experience as Clinical Hypnotherapist, Master NLP Practitioner, Linden Anxiety Coach, Mindfulness Teacher and EMDR Practitioner (trauma & PTSD) as well as a professional actress I can tell you, if you truly desire to change, YOU CAN. Get your life back, grow your confidence, YOU CAN DO ANYTHING.
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